Making Friends as a Mom

Well, my new friend here in Reno shared with me a new philosophy I have decided is very very true. Here it goes. Once you become a mom you need to make yourself mommy friends. Also, moving means you have to start all over again which is exactly what I am having to do now that I am in Reno. She said you have to go after other moms the same way you would go after a guy when you were single. Instead of going to bars (church dances) to pick up guys you go to parks to pick up moms. You have to get up the nerve to ask for their number. You tell them their kids are cute, you tell that they look nice, you invite them on play dates. You then invite them to dinner to meet the whole family and slowly you make advances into mommy friendship. I realized when my new friend said this that I have always been surprised at how hard it is to make new friends. I think I felt this way because we have the expectation that it is something that just naturally happens when you find compatible mommies around you. However, everyone acknowledges that getting yourself a man can be very hard so we aren't as put off when it takes a lot of work. Thus, I have committed to work just as hard to make my mommy friends as I did to get Stew!:0) After all it is fundamentally the same thing; trying to make someone like you enough to make room for you in their lives. In fact I have been doing this in small amounts with the very same girl that introduced this idea to me. I decided I wanted her to be friends with me. But I could tell she wasn't overly excited about that idea. But I put myself out there anyways. And now we are friends! So ladies. Work for those mommy friends just as hard as you did to get your Man. And I think you'll soon find yourselves with a little back book full of fellow mommies ready at your call to go to the park, the zoo, or just to chat on the phone.