imagine

Imagine we lived in a world where everyone wore a giant sticker on their clothes stating what their occupation was and that it was common for the strangers they came in contact with to make a comment about their choice of profession. Wouldn't that feel odd. Wouldn't it make everyone feel a little bit more self-conscious as they cant ignore how noticed and judged they are for their choice of lifestyles. Whether the comments were mostly positive or not it would be uncomfortable if we all lost our anonymous status going about every activity we happened to be doing.Wouldn't those same jokes and comments sort of get on your nerves day after day?

That is how it feels for a mother with a lot of children (that are not in school). Everywhere she goes she gets comments. Mostly ones meant to be encouraging but often it just gets old. Sometimes you wish you didn't even have to think about what other people are thinking about you. Sure, we all like a good compliment and heaven knows a stay at home mom could use more then she gets but if I got a dollar every time someone said to me,"Wow, you sure have your hands full." we would not be in financial crisis right now. Then there are the even ruder compliments like, "Wow, you are such a patient mother. wow. I admire you." That may seem nice except that it insinuates that my children are so awful that my ability to not be screaming at them invokes awe.

I know there are worse things in life but just a little FYI to the rest of the world, if it isn't a full on compliment that doesn't insinuate that my kids seem like terrors and you are surprised I am not committing suicide right now, keep it to yourself. Its generally not helping anything by being said.

And there you have my venting about my Walmart experience today! ;O)